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September 27, 2007

The Happiness Scorecard

I have always been a pretty happy guy unless I am losing at something.  Over the past year I feel happier than I have felt before.  It got me wondering how I could measure my happiness.  Happiness is a subjective feeling, you either feel happy or you don’t.  But is there a way to provide an objective measure to a subjective feeling?  I decided to attempt this with a happiness scorecard.

Scorecards are a tricky science.  Business executives love them because they can give a false sense of security and knowledge.  The devil is in the details.  I recall a week long scorecard exercise at Motorola where we attempted to measure and gauge different process management applications.  The methodology and weighting underwent a thorough examination and debate.  However, the scoring was on a 1-5 scale for each category.  So the final results ranged from approximately 4.2 to 3.2 for all 5 applications.  We had spent all week scoring these systems, and then the scoring leader said “Well, the scores were really quite close, there is only 1 point separating all the applications, we’ll have to re-evaluate our metrics.”  I felt this strange complex feeling of anger, absurdity, stupidity, and laughter.  I was living a Dilbert cartoon where any concept of logic and things making sense are thrown out the window.

I am determined not to make that mistake with the happiness scorecard.  The scale of each happiness metric will be 1-10.  The weightings will be double-checked to ensure the sum of all scoring weights equals 100%.  And there will be a sanity check of the results, to make sure I don’t give money 1% when everyone knows that while money doesn’t buy happiness, it sure makes life easier.

The first step is to create categories.  I defined my key life happiness areas as relationships, personal growth, health, spirituality, career, finances, and accumulated stuff.  My initial thought on the importance of each category, or the weighting if you will:

  • Relationships 50%
  • Personal Growth 15%
  • Health 10%
  • Spirituality 10%
  • Career 5%
  • Finances 5%
  • Accumulated Stuff 5%

This shocked me.  How could I not care about money or career at all?  If I lost my job or was broke, I would be miserable until I remedied the situation.  Spirituality had to count for more, how could I only think 10% of my happiness related to my beliefs and satisfaction with God?  I decided to breakdown the categories into more refined items to score against.  I realized I did not care about accumulated stuff at all.  However, there were "Other Important Stuff" that helped to make me happy.

Relationships - 50% - I decided 50% still seemed right.  I don't see how I could be happy if my relationships weren't successful and making me feel great.  It is vital.

  • Significant Other
  • Family
  • Friends

Personal Growth-10% - I can only go a few days without having some activity in this category.

  • Expressing Creativity
  • Expanding Mind
  • Meditation Discipline
  • Mastering Emotions

Health -10% - When your health is failing, nothing else will seem to matter.  When you have it, it is an afterthought.  Very tough to give a percentage rating to its importance.  Scorecards are not easy to develop.

  • Gym attendance consistency
  • Sciatic physical therapy
  • Fingernail biting
  • Stomach
  • Diet

Spirituality - 15%  - This should really be higher than 10%. Ok, I just edited it to be higher.  Connection to God is probably the most important goal to have in life.  But in my opinion your relationships are a key gateway to that connection, thus the weighting differential.

  • Course in Miracles Lesson Progress
  • Meditation Discipline
  • Attunement to Feelings While Being Present in Reality
  • Connection to God

Career - 2% - I defined career as having a job working for someone else.  I have no desire to do this for much longer.  I only kept it at 2% because having bad co-worker relationships can affect my happiness, and I do like to get paid as long as I am stuck at a job.

  • Job fulfillment and satisfaction
  • Pay
  • Performance
  • Co-worker relationships

Finances - 5%  Odd.  I really like having money.  I am shocked this is so low.  But I recall a couple of jobs that paid very well and my skin would literally crawl because I was stuck there.  I felt awful.  Another reason this is not as high is because I believe that if the rest of your life is in order, particularly personal development, money is going to flow more easily to you.  However, some of my contributors to happiness, especially in the "other important stuff" category below, rely heavily on having disposable income.  I just made a decision to separate "things I need money for" and "things specifically related to money" on this scorecard.

  • Personal Balance Sheet
  • Spending Not out of hand
  • Overall Amount of Money

Other Important Stuff - 8%  I like living in an upscale pad with a good view in a nice neighborhood.  It contributes to my happiness when I have a huge variety of activities, restaurants, bars, grocery stores, etc. within walking distance.   I also like being able to fly across the world as much as possible.  And having fun toys like an xbox and a bose sound dock make life more fun.

  • Quality of Residence
  • Toys
  • Travel

So I figured out my categories and weights.  Am I happy?  (Can't format my blog software to display a grid, so please bear with the "grid" below)

CATEGORY               WEIGHT     SCORE   WEIGHTED SCORE

Relationships               50%            10                5

Personal Growth           10%             8                .8

Health                         10%             2                .2

Spirituality                   15%             8                 1.4

Career                           2%             4                .08

Finances                         5%            5              .25

Other Important Stuff      8%            9               .72

totals                       100%                           8.45 out of 10

I'd say that is quite happy, I am, well, happy about that.  The most important category received a perfect score, which trust me, is a great feeling.  Once I can work for myself and get my health in order, my lowest scores will take care of themselves.  Life is good.

September 23, 2007

The CD Experience Mix Disc Club

I belong to a club called the CD Experience.  12 members across the country take a turn each month creating a mix cd and mailing it out to the other members of the club.  I haven't met some of the members, a few of the members I've met once, and half the club I know very well.  September was the month that I was assigned to make the club's mix disc.  I tried to take my experiences from the other discs I have received before creating my mix.  The results will be listed at the end of this post.

As I received my discs each month, it really hit home how different people's musical tastes are.  One person sent a lot of strange jazz.  I think jazz songs are things you have to figure and learn as the song as played.  Because of that, I"m not a big jazz guy.  I like songs that get me fired up and get to the point.  Jazz gets me confused.  I'll think I know the beat, and then the horn guy will go off on a tangent, and I will get disorientated and go back to my drink.  The jazz disc reinforced my jazz experiences at clubs, only I wasn't at a bar, and without the bar effect, jazz is a little too odd for me.  But it was still interesting to hear a jazz guy's playlist.

When I sat down to sift through my iTunes to create my cd experience playlist, I realized what a challenge it was.  Do I pick a theme?  Some people had sent the favorite song lists.  Others tried to send little known favorite musical gems.  My favorite theme up to this point was guy that called his disc "songs about me" or something like that.  He explained the meaning of each song as it related to his life so that the other club members could get to know him through his musical selections.  I decided to create the first double disc in the cd exchange club's history.  I couldn't condense my song list down to fit on one disc.  The theme is Friday Night Soundtrack.  I made 4 playlists of a typical friday night to take the listener through the four states of a great friday night:  Sweating out thursday's toxins at the gym, pre-game beverages with friends at someone's house, partying hard to some rap, and then late-night sing-alongs to oldschool rock tunes.  Here's the disc playlists-

Friday Night Soundtrack

Disc 1 Mix 1: Sweat Out Thursday Toxins - In the summers I captain a dodgeball team and thursday is a huge night.  In order to justify friday's evils, you have to hit the gym and sweat out thursday's intake.

  1. Weezer - My Name is Jonas : first song from my marathon mix days
  2. LCD Soundsystem - North American Scum : best tune of the past year
  3. Beastie Boys - Sabotage
  4. OK GO - Here It Goes Again : the cool Nike ad tune
  5. Blur - Song 2 : Always played at Patriots home games to fire up the crowd
  6. Crystal Method - Born Too Slow : peppy tune i heard at an urban outfitter and asked the clerk what the name of the song was
  7. Jet - Cold Heart Bitch : think of irritating female tendencies while this is playing and your heart rate picks up
  8. Louis XIV - God Killed the Queen : little known band that blows peoples doors off
  9. Offspring - Come out and play : oldy but goody
  10. White Stripes - Fell in Love with a Girl : in your face
  11. Survivor - Eye of the Tiger : you can't have a workout mix and not have the best workout song of all time

Disc 1 Mix 2: Pre-Game Bevs - Before you head out, congregate with your crew and have some beverages to get riled up.

  1. The Ataris - The Boys of Summer : killer remake
  2. Louis XIV - Finding Out True Love is Blind : great song with funny lyrics...true love is "blind" because the lead singer wants to bang half the girls in his audience
  3. Asia - Heat of the Moment : classic
  4. Bush - Swallowed : bush is cheesy but you have to admit you like them
  5. Everclear - Strawberry : most played itune song
  6. Pearl Jam - Rearviewmirror : favorite pearl jam song
  7. Prince - Kiss
  8. The Strokes - Last Night
  9. Filter - Take a Picture
  10. Jackopierce - Late Shift : Nantucket 1994 theme song

Disc 2 Mix 1: Rap Tunes While Out in the City - When you are in mid-friday night frolic, nothing captures the mood like some rowdy rap

  1. Jay Z - 99 Problems
  2. N.E.R.D. - Lapdance
  3. Notorious B.I.G. - Hypnotized
  4. Dr Dre & Snoop Dogg - The Next Episode
  5. Andy Milonakis and Max Kasch - Nick and T-Dog's P-H-Fat Rap : This video and song were played at the end of the unsung movie Waiting.  Hysterical
  6. Snoop Dogg and friends - Ain't No Fun (If the Homies Can't Have None) - Hilariously vulgar.
  7. Easy E - Boyz N that Hood
  8. Snoop Doggy Dogg - Gin and Juice
  9. Warren G and Nate Dogg - Regulators

Disc 2 Mix 2: Late Night Classics - To be listened to when the night has wound down and you are back with the last stragglers of the evening.  Play it loud and sing it louder.  Apologize to your neighbors saturday.

  1. Guns N Roses - Sweet Child O' Mine : Best song ever
  2. Pearl Jam - Alive
  3. Rick Springfield - Jesse's Girl
  4. Night Ranger - Sister Christian
  5. Poison - I Won't Forget You
  6. Red Hot Chili Peppers - Under the Bridge
  7. Toto - Africa
  8. Winger - Seventeen
  9. Journey - Don't Stop Believin'

September 10, 2007

Football Chaos

Every September during football’s first Sunday, I have the same realization that I have probably got in over my head with football mania.  And I love it.  This year it hit me during the 3rd quarter of the Patriots-Jets match up.  Randy Moss of the Patriots caught a long touchdown pass.  I was elated.  Then I checked one of my many fantasy football teams…damn it, my brother had Randy Moss going against me in our game.  The Catch-22 of football season had begun to bite me 2 hours into the season!  Fantasy sports vs. my real team allegiance vs. my betting, the no-man’s land of football fandom.

In my exuberance for football, I ended up signing up for 4 fantasy football leagues.  This creates a decent amount of chaos for me, because whenever there is a highlight reel of a touchdown or other big play, I rush to the computer to determine if that play was a good thing for all of my teams or not.  Compounding the difficulty is my fantasy football diversification rule.  I will do my best not to have more than 2 players alike on each team.   That way I am (hopefully) covered from the risk of having a bunch of crappy teams if I make a mistake with one team’s roster.

You would think that 4 fantasy football teams would be enough for me.  It’s not.  I also tend to place a few small wagers on the NFL contests of the weekend.  I love the challenge of looking at two teams and trying to figure out who is going to beat the point spread.  But by adding in gambling, in addition to the 4 fantasy sports matchups I’m trying to follow, I need to not only root for certain teams to score points, but for only specific players on those teams to score points. 

Wait, it gets more ridiculous.  The Patriots have been and will always be my favorite team.  Their performance trumps everything, I think.  If I were forced to choose between the Patriots making the playoffs and my fantasy football team winning its championship, I am not sure what I would do.  It is like choosing amongst your children.

The enjoyment/chaos was in full effect this past Sunday.  Randy Moss scores a touchdown, Yea for the Patriots, boo for fantasy team #1.  Adrian Peterson scores a touchdown for Minnesota, yea for fantasy team #2, boo for my gambling.  And on and on it went, until I had created a virtual 3-dimensional emotional matrix in my head of all the outcomes.  It got pretty hectic, I was forced to take a nap mid-day, although that also had something to do with Paco flying in from Denver for the weekend.  What I have decided to do for the rest of the season is to only bet on games where I am also rooting for the team to help my fantasy teams.  Of course, if the bet looks like easy money is to be made…

September 05, 2007

Cell Phone Junky

I realized something was afoot when I switched my phone from my right to left pant pocket.  I did this because I had spent a good part of the day reaching down to look at my phone, only to find I was the victim of yet another “ghost text”.  A ghost text is when you feel your phone vibrate to alert you to a text, take out the phone, and find out that it was just all in your head.  You never actually got a text, because your phone didn’t vibrate, it was as if the text became a ghost and flew away.

Even though I moved my phone to a different pocket, I still felt my right leg vibrating.  This got me wondering about my cell phone usage, do I really use it that much?  I reset all my text messages and phone call timer for the past week.  I was shocked at this past week of phone stats:  262 incoming texts, 227 outgoing texts, and 22 hours of talk time.  Jeezus!  I didn’t have any clue I was such a phone fool.  Granted my lady was out of town, so that definitely contributed to the high stats, but it still seemed excessive.  I don't have any email sent to my phone like other phone junkies do, my stats were purely text messaging originating from my phone.  I decided to look at the different types of phone usage in greater detail.  Here’s what I found:

Phone usage - Work conference calls were about half of the talk time.  Melissa took up 25% of the talk time.  Friends were the other 25% of the talk time.

Texts - Texts coordinating evening contributed a large number to the text count.  When you are in a loud bar, you can’t answer the phone, it’s futile.  My friends and I furiously text until we have all met up at the evening’s watering hole.  I find this to be one of texting’s biggest benefits – You generally are going to be able to hang out with your group if they are out enjoying Chicago’s fine establishments, which they always are, so I always do.

My lady had a pretty high share of the text count.  That goes without saying, in the days of cell phones and texting, you are going to have some daily chatter with the better half.  She was gone to Boston so texting came in very handy.  You don’t want to have to step outside during the night to chit-chat while on a trip.  Texting allows you to keep in touch without having to break away from whatever else you are up to.  Although nothing beats hearing her voice over a text, but sometimes you have to take what you can get.

Text replies back to screened phone calls were another common source of texts.  Lots of times I just don’t want to get into a 20 minute conversation due to a variety of factors.  So I will not answer the call, but then text over “hey what’s up” or “eating dinner” or some sort of status.  As I type this, I am not thrilled with this behavior, it has become a habit I need to try and kick.

One thing I try to avoid is mass-texting impersonal messages.  A few of the guilty who will remain nameless like to send out mass texts to a large group of people, with a message of “Hey what’s going on” or “Out?” or “Drinks?”  I don’t send or answer these.  If you can’t take the time to personally text me about what I am up to, I can’t take the time to be your social director for the evening.

I am shocked at how much I rely on my phone for interaction.  Texting has become one of my primary methods of communication.  Thank God I don't own a Blackberry and get all my email sent to my phone.  I just hope the ghost stops texting me.